Met a few friends for lunch yesterday. I was eating through ½ way when one of them interrupted me. The conversation went like this:
Miss X: Hey Woon, I heard you lost your handbag to a snatch thief. How did it happen?
Me: Oh! I was getting into my car. I noticed 2 men on a motorbike behind my car. Suddenly one of them opened my passenger car door and snatched my bag from my shoulder…
Miss X: Why did you not lock your car when you get into it? Me, everytime I go into my car, I lock it without waiting for the automatic locking. Me, I don’t carry a handbag on my shoulder…see… even when I am in the restaurant, the handbag is on my neck. I also do not carry a lot of money…he..he…you know I have only RM30 in my bag now.. You know, you people make yourself so tempting for the snatch thief…
She went on and on…I lost my appetite! Fortunately I had an excuse to leave early.
Why am I held responsible for what happened to me ? Hey…I am the poor traumatised victim, remember?
Why? Why must people hold the victims responsible for what has happened? Why must the victims be derogated? Rape victims are often blamed for their “sexy” attire, a women found murdered in a hotel room was blamed for being of loose morals for having gone to the hotel room with the murderer...so it was a case of “she asked for it”, people who are mugged are often told they should not have taken unnecessary foolish chances.
Can we have more compassion for the victims instead and understand how they feel?
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