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Sunday, August 12, 2012

It breaks my heart to see him just a shadow of his former self

After taking care of my centeranian Father for only one day, I realize it is a full time job. Although he is not incontinent, he can only sleep continuously for about an hour to an hour and a half at night.  When he wakes up he needs help to sit up, he needs help to walk the short distance to the toilet and he needs to be helped to lie down on the bed again.  When he is alseep I cannot sleep soundly as I keep on worrying whether he had awakened and needs my help.

If the maid does not return from her 5- week holiday in September I may have to locate night nursing care.  Much as I am happy to take care of him as he is my Father, this task may be difficult for only one person.

It breaks my heart to see him just a shadow of his former self, to see him having to struggle to walk, even to sit down, to stand up or to eat and drink.   

I hate those chirpy sayings about aging - that age is just a state of the mind, that “60 is the new 40″, that  “80 the new 60″, etc, etc.  What would they say next, "100 is the new middle age" ?   The hard reality is, old age is a time of loss and decline and we as children (who are also growing old ourselves), with elderly parents, can only do our best to care for them while not neglecting our own health too.




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Our Father's 100th Birthday celebration on 24 July 2011

Our Father's 100th Birthday celebration on 24 July 2011






I am 100 today!









Some happy memories 15.7.2007


Sister Wan Lan in her splendorous Kebaya nyonya

Zuraida, my Secretary who was with me for 6 years when I was still working in the Government, accompanied by her son

My sister Wan Lan on the extreme left standing with me and my closest friends of several decades (Meilina to my left, Esah sitting left and Norhayati sitting right)

Tan Sri Arshad and Tan Sri Shahrizaila arriving for the reception

Brother-inlaw Ching

Nephew Meng, his girlfriend Jane, Sister Wan Lan and good friend Ivy helping out with guest registration

Offering tea to grandfather Woon Sang Chew, as a mark of love and respect

My good friends Prof Noor Hadjar from UiTM and Hearry from MAS

The entrance to the hall

me in the middle and cousin in law Anita Woon

Fedelia and her best friends, Yin Lee and Amalia, the three pretty flower girls

Daughter Fedelia in a pensive mood

The main Table

The pelamin

Whimsical flower girl niece Sara

Nephew Meng and girlfriend Jane

Good friend Wan Zawiah's daughter Nadia contributing a song

My three children L-R: Second son Farouk, only daughter and youngest Fedelia and elder son Feris