After taking care of my centeranian Father for only one day, I realize it is a full time job. Although he is not incontinent, he can only sleep continuously for about an hour to an hour and a half at night. When he wakes up he needs help to sit up, he needs help to walk the short distance to the toilet and he needs to be helped to lie down on the bed again. When he is alseep I cannot sleep soundly as I keep on worrying whether he had awakened and needs my help.
If the maid does not return from her 5- week holiday in September I may have to locate night nursing care. Much as I am happy to take care of him as he is my Father, this task may be difficult for only one person.
It breaks my heart to see him just a shadow of his former self, to see him having to struggle to walk, even to sit down, to stand up or to eat and drink.
I hate those chirpy sayings about aging - that age is just a state of the mind, that “60 is the new 40″, that “80 the new 60″, etc, etc. What would they say next, "100 is the new middle age" ? The hard reality is, old age is a time of loss and decline and we as children (who are also growing old ourselves), with elderly parents, can only do our best to care for them while not neglecting our own health too.
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- Confucius teachings (9)
- Do they have a heart or a soul? (52)
- Elderly Health and other issues (36)
- Elderly Humour (39)
- General Humour (33)
- Hobbies and interests (32)
- Thoughts and Reminisces (320)
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Our Father's 100th Birthday celebration on 24 July 2011
I am 100 today!
Sister Wan Lan in her splendorous Kebaya nyonya
Zuraida, my Secretary who was with me for 6 years when I was still working in the Government, accompanied by her son
My sister Wan Lan on the extreme left standing with me and my closest friends of several decades (Meilina to my left, Esah sitting left and Norhayati sitting right)
Tan Sri Arshad and Tan Sri Shahrizaila arriving for the reception
Brother-inlaw Ching
Nephew Meng, his girlfriend Jane, Sister Wan Lan and good friend Ivy helping out with guest registration
Offering tea to grandfather Woon Sang Chew, as a mark of love and respect
My good friends Prof Noor Hadjar from UiTM and Hearry from MAS
The entrance to the hall
me in the middle and cousin in law Anita Woon
Fedelia and her best friends, Yin Lee and Amalia, the three pretty flower girls
Daughter Fedelia in a pensive mood
The main Table
The pelamin
Whimsical flower girl niece Sara
Nephew Meng and girlfriend Jane
Good friend Wan Zawiah's daughter Nadia contributing a song
My three children L-R: Second son Farouk, only daughter and youngest Fedelia and elder son Feris







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